So many opportunities!

I'm working on many fronts right now with exciting big ventures including new coaching clients, essential oil education and coaching, creating courses and free offerings, affiliate marketing, publishing books, opening an ETSY store, writing articles...man. It's exciting, but it can get overwhelming.

I've had nights where I was in an easy flow, and ideas AND the next steps came quickly.  Other nights, I sat paralyzed because I couldn't figure out my next step, even if I had identified it the night before. I wrote the steps down, and I was still paralyzed. 

Life can be like that. Easy and hard. Free and frozen. But the one thing I didn't do was to start negative self-talk. I asked what was just 1 thing in 1 of these big ideas that I could do. I did that 1 thing. It felt as good as the nights when I accomplished so much more, but each night I did what my brain allowed. 

With my coaching clients and myself, I gauge where we might be at any given time. Can we work fast and furiously? Do we need to look at baby, baby, micro steps? Do we need to just feel the feelings and review past accomplishments?  - That's another great tool for your toolkit by the way. It's all good. That's the point. Living is just learning lessons. 

This post is a bit of a scattered mess, but that's ok, too. Today is authentic. 

Back to Blogging

I had a grand vision at one point to write all the things and share all the things. But, then I was living all the things. I quit teaching after a horrible year under a horrible principal when I had horrible students in one class - yes, I said it. I took a technical writing job with another horrible boss and quit that job after only 6 months. I have been working for almost 3 years at a good company with a good boss and team. Oh - and I moved from Texas to Colorado. Because I could. 

I'd talked about living near mountains my entire life. The DFW metropolitan area was just not my style, but I grew such large communities of friends and had family there. I was raising my daughter there, and it didn't make sense to move for a long time. After Covid restrictions let up a bit, my company didn't ask employees to return to the office (and still hasn't) . With my boss' and company's approval, I packed up and moved to Colorado. 

It's currently -2 degrees with a wind chill of -16. It's supposed to snow for at least the next 12 hours straight, so we'll see what we wake up to.  

My house is even a new-build, and I never dreamed I'd be in a new home as a single woman. I signed a contract on it when it was still a big hole in the ground and moved in 4 months later. BAM. 

The take-away in this situation is multi-faceted.

1. Just because it can't happen soon doesn't mean it isn't meant to happen.

2. Just because it doesn't happen the way you thought it would happen, doesn't mean it's not going to happen and possibly better.

3. Don't stop dreaming. Things might turn out better than you thought they could.

4. The option you think is the least possible might be the most probable. 

5. DO IT. Dammit, just do it. Even if you have to take a detour, back-track, or go back to step 1, you still did something amazing. 

6. Similar to #5, be brave. People are looking at you, and some think you are a hero. 

Maybe there's more, but I think 6 is plenty for now. 

Big Goals - Little Steps

I had a great talk with my friend, Christy, last night, and we talked about our health journey. I loved the reminder she gave me - just look at the next 24 hours and make intentional decisions one at a time.


Isn't that relevant to all aspects of our lives? Big goals and long future timelines can be overwhelming. But, setting goals clearly is important. So there is a balance we need: look at the big goal, but focus on the small daily choices and steps to take.
Life is not "black and white" or "all or nothing." Just take the next step.

More signs that things are in alignment

After getting the approval of my proposal to speak at the 2016 TIA conference in Denton, I had a slight panic moment.  How was I going to ensure that I gave my message in the most inspiring and professional manner - in such a way that I would continue to be in demand in the future?

As luck and the universe would have it, I had to go to training right after the last week of school for mentoring and supporting new teachers.  It's an exciting new position I have at my campus.  The training was provided by Ginger Tucker, and it hit both of my new ventures: mentoring other mentors and new teachers as well as speaking to/educating adults.  I've done all of these roles before, but I've had to learn along the way and guess.  It's worked, but how much more effective could I be with thorough training?  

The training was fantastic, and I worked on my conference presentation right along during the training in order to get the most out of my time and training.

I also made a new friend in one of the presenters and have an invitation to come out to the city where the Tuckers and he live. (It's been on my list of little towns to move to when I want to get out of the bustle of the DFW metroplex.) Coincidence?  I'm not sure that matters. It WAS validation that I am moving along the right path.

So I say to you, if you aren't sure if you are moving forward in your endeavors or your right path, check to see if the signs around you align and set up for your success.  I believe that if you are intentional and centered in your purpose, that you will be supported by God, by the universe, or "by coincidence."

Turn around.....

Remember the Bonnie Turner song, "Total Eclipse of the Heart?"  My friends and I often sing "Turn around....."

I want to bring up how many trials, tribulations, and challenges I've faced. But, that's really depressing. It actually depresses me if I sit and think about all of them.  Bad stuff has happened, but I've worked very hard and deliberately to find a way to make each bad situation have a meaningful outcome. There is NOT a silver lining for everything; I'm not that naive. But, can I make something meaningful come from the bad things that have happened? That's my personal driving question.

I really won't go through all of the things in my past; I'll just bring up one situation that I let fester for nearly a year. I was in a leadership role at my primary workplace. I'm a teacher, and I was department chair. One spring, the principal and I interviewed many people to come on board, and we put a current teacher into the role of instructional coach.  It was not a position I really understood, nor wanted. I wasn't sure how much the district was going to back and support instructional coaches. I was department chair, and I was very happy with that role and those responsibilities. During the summer, the principal wrote me an email (it was a copy/paste of what she also sent to the entire faculty) stating that she was getting rid of all department chair roles. Their responsibilities would fall now to the instructional coaches, who would be taking on even more responsibilities than in years past.  It took me out of a leadership role, and it took money out of my pocket.  I was pissed.

I had really started to look at my career growth with the department chair as a building block to grow from. I was no longer in all of the leadership meetings, no longer in the know, no longer the go-to person, etc.  Other people in the district didn't know exactly how to treat me - had I been demoted? What did I do wrong?   The answer was no and nothing, but they wouldn't dare to ask those questions.

The next school year, I continued to mentor a new teacher and I had a student teacher. I looked at other ways I could develop my career.  Both of these mentoring positions gave me valuable experience and insight into a different kind of role. At the end of the year, I was offered the role of Lead Mentor for our campus teacher mentors.  This is actually an even better fit for me.

I also made a proposal to speak at a conference, which I might not have done if I had continued as a department chair. AND ----- I WAS ACCEPTED!

Instead of just wallowing, I looked to see what other career possibilities were available. I also waited to see what would pop up. That was particularly hard since I like to plan, prepare, and conquer.